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There is this odd trend
of taken women
saying they are too much,
and how the men they love
are amazing for dealing with them.

Love should not be a responsibility.
You should not have to deal with me.
Just because a woman is wild
and free
does not mean she is difficult.
He is not a martyr for loving me
through the good
and not so good.

Some mornings I will wake up swinging,
you do not get a gold star
for still loving me.

Some mornings I will wake up like a lamb,
you do not get a gold star
for loving me.

I am not a hurricane of a girl,
you always have the chance to leave.

Michelle K., Hurricanes. (via michellekpoems)
Posted 1 month ago
People, it seems, regard the present as a watershed moment at which they have finally become the person[s] they will be for the rest of their lives.” Although personality and values do tend to become more stable with age, people generally underestimate the extent of future personality shifts. The researchers call this phenomenon “the end of history illusion.
Posted 1 month ago

For Buddhists, how does the concept of "attachment" apply to the closest people in your life?

sharanam:

The more one loves and opens one’s heart, the more likely one is going to feel a significant loss when relationships, experiences, and other things of meaning come to an end. There is nothing wrong with grief and sadness.

Buddhists are not training to be unfeeling. We are learning how to be…
Posted 1 month ago
We completely deny the existence of a self-existent I, or a permanent, independent soul. Every aspect of your body and mind is impermanent: changing, changing, changing…
 Lama Thubten Yeshe (via abiding-in-peace)
Posted 1 month ago
Its not impermanence per se, or even knowing were going to die, that is the cause of our suffering, the Buddha taught. Rather, its our resistance to the fundamental uncertainty of our situation. Our discomfort arises from all of our effort to put ground under our feet, to realize our dream of constant okayness.
Pema Chödrön (via inhabitude)
Posted 1 month ago
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits – islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.
Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Gift from the Sea (via theplaintruthofit)
Posted 1 month ago
All your loved ones will die, or change, or leave you - your mother, your father, your children, your best friends, your most intimate lovers, your teachers, your students. Or you will change, or evolve, or lose your memory, or the body’s systems will collapse. All external sources of happiness are subject to the laws of impermanence. This is only ‘depressing’ or ‘negative’ from the point of view of the ego, which thrives on attachment and possession, and clings to people and objects and substances for its survival. The ego always needs time, and makes time into an enemy or an addiction.
But from the perspective of who you really are, the uncontrollability of things, the unpredictability of others, the beautiful fragility of relationship, renders every moment infinitely precious.
We may not have tomorrow, but we have Now - and Now is everything.
And so we are pulled forever into gratitude, broken apart on the altar of fearless love, meeting in the place we can never be broken.

impermanence

Jeff Foster (www.lifewithoutacentre.com)

Posted 1 month ago
The very first noble truth of the Buddha points out that suffering is inevitable for human beings as long as we believe that things last—that they don’t disintegrate, that they can be counted on to satisfy our hunger for security.
Pema Chodron (via lazyyogi)